Mindset Concepts
Today, I choose courage over comfort. I can't make any promises for tomorrow, but today, I choose this.
Flowing • Resilience • Commitment
1. Relationship
Shared overall goal: Fight the problem, not each other. Don’t make each other the problem.
Year goal: Stepping into vulnerability and believing there is a deep sense of trust and openness and acceptance
First step: Actively start communicating my needs and preferences, both sexually and not.
2. Physical
Year goal: Create the habit of going to the gym & working out 30 mins/day, 5+ days/week and reach 23% body fat
First step: 3 Takeya of water, Portion control & working out 7 days/week (any amount of time) & gym 4 days/week
*Bonus goals: Lose weight slowly, gain muscle mass, improve skin and hydration.
3. Business
Shared overall goal: Open 2 more Coda Salons
Year goal: Open 2 Coda Salons and get them 80% full
First step: Secure funding for 1 more salon
*Bonus goals: Open Switchback #1
4. Financial
Shared overall goal: 10k in savings, 10k towards debt.
Year goal: 10k in savings, 10k towards debt, replace 50% of our hair/driving income
First step: Book salon books
5. Lifestyle
Shared overall goal: Setting us up for 2024 with a lot of travel/living flexibility.
Year goal: Soul Season and the trips we’re planning
First step: Business goals
6. Mental
Year goal: Have a better relationship with stress, anxiety and depression
First step: commit to my daily routine
*Bonus goals: cultivate resilience
1. Relationship
Shared overall goal: Fight the problem, not each other. Don’t make each other the problem.
Year goal: Stepping into vulnerability and believing there is a deep sense of trust and openness and acceptance
First step: Actively start communicating my needs and preferences, both sexually and not.
2. Physical
Year goal: Create the habit of going to the gym & working out 30 mins/day, 5+ days/week and reach 23% body fat
First step: 3 Takeya of water, Portion control & working out 7 days/week (any amount of time) & gym 4 days/week
*Bonus goals: Lose weight slowly, gain muscle mass, improve skin and hydration.
3. Business
Shared overall goal: Open 2 more Coda Salons
Year goal: Open 2 Coda Salons and get them 80% full
First step: Secure funding for 1 more salon
*Bonus goals: Open Switchback #1
4. Financial
Shared overall goal: 10k in savings, 10k towards debt.
Year goal: 10k in savings, 10k towards debt, replace 50% of our hair/driving income
First step: Book salon books
5. Lifestyle
Shared overall goal: Setting us up for 2024 with a lot of travel/living flexibility.
Year goal: Soul Season and the trips we’re planning
First step: Business goals
6. Mental
Year goal: Have a better relationship with stress, anxiety and depression
First step: commit to my daily routine
*Bonus goals: cultivate resilience
I know that my THOUGHTS create my EMOTIONS which drive my ACTIONS or INACTION that create my RESULTS
My goal is to empathize with Casey (and others) and allow their subjective experience to be valid even if and especially when it is different than mine
I believe in learning to cultivate hope by
- Having the ability to set fathomable goals
- I am able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including the ability to stay flexible and develop alternate routes
- I believe in myself (I can do this!)
I believe in allowing myself to embrace disappointment
I believe cultivating and embracing a resilient spirit. The ability to bounce back from adversity. I practice:
- being resourceful and problem-solving
- seeking help
- believing I can do something to manage my feelings
- connecting with others and having a social network
I am the observer of everything being said or happening in my head. I imagine it like a football game: There is the coach (core me), the players both home and away ("parts" of me, both positive and negative) and then there is the owner of the team (observer). I can see everything being said or happening and choose which voices I allow to really come forward.
I lean into internal solutions and understand that the source of long-term happiness is found within, not externally. For example, tolerating disappointment.
In higher emotional awareness, I allow myself to lean into negative emotions, knowing that more than 50% of my life may be negative emotions. At the same time, I don't want to over identify with them.
Self compassion is made up of many things, including these 3 important pillars:
- Self kindness
- understanding that we're in a common humanity
- Mindfulness (balanced approach to emotions)
Honor the struggle that comes along with real growth, love and contributions.
Practicing personal responsibility and the balance between being responsible to myself, responsible to Casey, responsible to the public, and responsible to the world.
I understand how dialectics pay a role in life. The concept that two contrasting set of ideas/opinions/beliefs/hopes, etc can be present at the exact same time. I always want to understand these contradictions and what they can tell me about myself and yet, I do not want to use the concept as a way to stay confused and buffer against hard work/progress/commitment, etc.
I strongly believe in capitalism in it's truest sense and free enterprise.