Today, I choose courage over comfort. I can't make any promises for tomorrow, but today, I choose this.
I know that my THOUGHTS create my EMOTIONS which drive my ACTIONS or INACTION that create my RESULTS
My goal is to empathize with Casey (and others) and allow their subjective experience to be valid even if and especially when it is different than mine
I believe in learning to cultivate hope by
- Having the ability to set fathomable goals
- I am able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including the ability to stay flexible and develop alternate routes
- I believe in myself (I can do this!)
I believe in allowing myself to embrace disappointment
I believe cultivating and embracing a resilient spirit. The ability to bounce back from adversity. I practice:
- being resourceful and problem-solving
- seeking help
- believing I can do something to manage my feelings
- connecting with others and having a social network
Understanding that I have a roommate in my head that has something to say about everything. I am not that voice, I am the one hearing the voice.
I lean into internal solutions and understand that the source of long-term happiness is found within, not externally. For example, tolerating disappointment.
In higher emotional awareness, I allow myself to lean into negative emotions, knowing that more than 50% of my life may be negative emotions. At the same time, I don't want to over identify with them.
Self compassion is made up of many things, including these 3 important pillars:
- Self kindness
- understanding that we're in a common humanity
- Mindfulness (balanced approach to emotions)
Honor the struggle that comes along with real growth, love and contributions.
Practicing personal responsibility and the balance between being responsible to myself, responsible to Casey, responsible to the public, and responsible to the world.
I believe in and practicing attitudinal choice--which is similar to emotional choice as defined by the model--but different in that, sometimes a cognitive switch in attitude helps guide my thoughts and emotions in the right direction (therefore my actions follow)
I understand how dialectics pay a role in life. The concept that two contrasting set of ideas/opinions/beliefs/hopes, etc can be present at the exact same time. I always want to understand these contradictions and what they can tell me about myself and yet, I do not want to use the concept as a way to stay confused and buffer against hard work/progress/commitment, etc.